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How Saying Good Jobs Could Make Anyone a Better Parent

How Saying Good Jobs Could Make Anyone a Better Parent

Do You appreciate your child?  

Do you praise your child?  

Of course you do that right? Every parent does that. You will ask me, is there anything wrong in that? 

No, there is nothing wrong in it but correct way of praising is important. 

Now, what is correct way of praising a child? 

During pandemic most of us are working from home. Imagine you are busy in your work and you are really into it. Suddenly your child comes to you asking how is this?   

He has drawn something on a sheet of paper on his own and really excited to show it to you. 

You are really busy in your work and the child keeps asking, tell me dad how is this or tell me mom how is this. Look here mom please.  

You have to look at your child and give him/her an answer. You turn your face for a second and say…

Every day we hear all sorts of questions from our kids like how is my drawing mama? Isn’t it beautiful? See How well I have drawn this picture? How did I do It? 

Yes, all sorts of 1000s of questions, which must be answered.

Please be ready I am going to b quiet straight forward here.  

You would say. Nice. Good job. 

Isn’t it? I guess I heard a yes or may be it’s my inner voice. 

See We all love our children , we praise them, we appreciate them just to see that beautiful smile on their faces. 

I know what you must be thinking, what’s the problem in appreciating our own children ?  

There is no problem in that, but I feel, good job is a very lazy Praise or I Would say it’s a bad praise. 

Come on, we are in 2021 guys, kids are smarter than us. They don’t just want to hear a good job from us, they already know about it. When we say good job we feel that we are boosting up their self-esteem. Well,  because we are not specifically telling them what is so good in that job that they have done. 

They will never get to know what is it that they have to do in order to hear a good job again from us in future. 

Confused? Let me simplify it for u. 

Next time your child wins the cricket match, please don’t say a good job. Just tell him, you did wonderful fielding.

If your child shows a certain drawing, then tell him, how well he has done the coloring in it. 

Be specific. And if you still want to be lazy, then make sure you at least say, “great efforts my dear” Because by saying great efforts you are conveying a message that they have taken a step towards trying and putting efforts. 

A lot of research has been done in child psychology. By reading some of the beautiful work I have understood, appreciation should be avoided in areas where a child has no control like God-gifted aspects – beauty, intelligence, and being artistic.

Rather, we should praise them for their generosity, efforts, compassion, respect for others, love, focus, discipline, quick decision-making, and not being lazy.

For example, next time tell them, you were so focused when you were playing this game or putting a lot of effort into keeping your things organized. Or maybe, you were so generous for sharing toys with your sister. 

There is one more way to praise your child.

Ask them how did they feel after doing certain work. Allow them to decide for themselves how do they feel about their accomplishments. Let them reward themselves. 

Please delete the words, “good job” from your vocabulary. And when next time you praise your child explaining what good they have done then you can actually feel proud of yourself, pat your back, and say to yourself … what? Good Job. 

Please try this technique next time. 

Don’t praise your child for the work they have done, rather, praise their efforts in doing that work. 

Let me know what difference you felt after changing your way of praising.

I hope this helps you as it is helping me. This is it on this topic from my side. Keep praising correctly. Stay Calm, stay positive and I will be back with a new blog. 


Monica Aeran

Do you really even care?

Do you really even care?

Goonj Aeran

In the picture that’s my lovely daughter Goonj Aeran. She is going to be 6 years very soon.

She turns from a sophisticated princess to a mad monster right in a flick.

Right, when I conceived I started reading and searching every little thing about caring for a child.

I am still reading and learning a lot on how to handle things with her and its a continuous process.

As a mother, I am also 6 years old or 6 years young. There are days when she is really very stubborn and then there are days when she is awesomely sweet and innocent.

I am a mother and one thing I know now is I am raising a human being. Raising her has made me know myself. I know my strengths and I know my weaknesses.

Earlier, I used to think – I very much know what being a parent means.

As a parent, you want to and you do the best for your child.

Whenever I get a chance I make sure to cuddle with her, give her hugs and kisses. But, sometimes I completely use to “lost it” very often and screamed at her, yell at her as a frustrated mom would do.

I have done almost everything right from bribing a candy or chocolate and threatening her in a public place to be a disciplined child.

I pleaded I have ordered, I have tried to control her, I have begged her to sleep when I’m tired of all I wanted was her cooperation.

I really fear those days when none of the above would work. What if she stops respecting me? What if she stops listening to me? What if she might even stop coming back to me. I fear the days when nothing works for me. So how would I raise a capable, positive and successful person?

Then what I started reading, searching, and gathering information. And during this search, I came across small bits of information and theories that suggested there is a LOT I have been missing out on. There is a LOT more to parenting I know. These theories, articles, case studies present the idea that parenting is not to take control over your child’s life, creating a bond with them will be a lot more helpful.

Most of the schools that practice this thought process follow that, there is no need to punish a child ever. Once you give them respect, you will gain it back. The bond, the relationship you build today with your child can travel a long way to the difficult years of teenage and far beyond.

One thing I know now that Parenting is more about building character, (your own as well as your child’s) than about discipline. And on and on.

All of them would lead to one endpoint – that you have a better chance of raising a wonderful person with just one single change in your own character, attitude, and perception than with any other form of discipline rule.

Are you SERIOUS ?


So, I started looking at my relationship with my daughter. I started checking the patterns of me scolding her, getting mad at her. Slowly, I noticed one major problem that these patterns were like waves. My ups and downs were totally reflecting in her replies or talks to others.

I wanted to CHANGE. I picked few quick parenting tips, applied them. And they did work, almost but soon I almost got back to my traditional being.

Old habits won’t bring new results.

I wanted to make something for the long term, something which is sustainable. Something which could stay.

if you have reached till here that means you really CARE.

As I was thinking too much about it, I decided to break the pattern and started controlling myself. If I was trying a new technique or tip I was practicing it for at least 30 days as “it takes 30 days to make or (break) a habit”. Whatever happens, I have to follow it. Eventually, I should be able to reach where I want to be. Right?

It’s been a while now that I have changed my and my daughter’s behavior and the relationship between us. I still “lose it” but don’t get mad or a crazy parent like earlier.

If you’ve read this far, I’m guessing that at least some part of my story resonates with you.

Yes you are not alone.

These small tips really help. The only thing that matter is how much we want them to help us.

A small change in our own attitude and behavior can help a lot, really. I will be bringing some short videos and more blogs. This will be on various topics related to kids, their health, their concerns, our mental health, our concerns for kids, and much more.

I want to make a community through this blog where everyone can share their views and concerns about parenting.

if you are mother you are an Inspiration and so do the millions of mothers around you.

Great parents are made and not born. Do you all agree?

I am planning to write more on this blog and keep sharing as I want to bring together all the parents from different walks of life. We have one common goal as a parent – To slowly become a better person and raise a successful human being and bring out the best parent hidden within us.

Join Us in the Journey. Share your views about this blog by commenting or writing a mail @ monicaaeran@gmail.com

It’s a monumental journey we are on, and you will not regret being a part of this beautiful community!


Monica Aeran

5 Best Parenting Tips

5 Best Parenting Tips

When you’re dealing with young children, there is one thing that tested almost every day – your patience. To save yourself from losing it as well as your energy, try to look at each difficult situation with fresh eyes. Learn when to walk away and always choose your battles with your kids.

Follow these 5 Best Parenting Tips – They might just help save the day!

Mind your response

Keep in mind that you should only control what you can – and that is how you respond to any situation. When your little one does something not ideal, don’t let emotions get in the way. This will only result in overly-harsh punishments that will be hard on you both.
It’s not about how much your punishment inconveniences your child, it’s about consistency. Don’t worry about being predictable, consistent punishments work even if your child doesn’t act as it affects him. Focus on your response, not theirs.

Know when to walk away

When your little one breaks a rule, give the punishment and simply walk away. Don’t let an argument start because that’s when the power struggle that takes all your energy and patience away begins.
The less you react, the more it will show your child that you no longer tolerate arguing and backtalk. When you walk away from a power struggle, you take away their power.


When you’re starting to feel angry and frustrated, take a deep breath and walk it off. Take some time to let the frustration die down and allow your child to do the same. When both of your heads are cool, this allows for a calmer conversation that’s more effective and productive.

Tackle one issue at a time

You’re mad about chores, school, and your child’s general behaviour. But if you’re going to scold them, don’t mention everything all at once. This will only overwhelm the both of you and won’t lead to positive behavioral changes in your child.
Instead, tackle one issue at a time and try to discuss it as calmly as possible. Don’t forget to listen to what your child has to say!

Be a role model

Did you know that kids watch what we do more than they listen to what we say? Exhibit good behavior that you want to see in your kids, especially when it comes to values.

Parenting is hard but oh-so-worth-it. Practice these best parenting tips that just might help save your day!

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