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Best 8 Techniques of Positive Discipline

Best 8 Techniques of Positive Discipline

Hey are you a Positive parent?

Are you a positive person?

No, I did not mean COVID positive. I know this pandemic has changed the meaning of being positive.

I am going to share 8 simple techniques to maintain positive discipline with kids.

But before knowing the positive parenting tips we should answer one question.

What is bad parenting? What is negative parenting?

To read about it in detail you should visit my blog often as I keep posting about such topics.

To start todays post I would like to share a simple observation where we keep branding our child with different names per say you are a naughty child, you are bad child.

Don’t brand your child with these negative names. It puts really a negative impact on the child’s brain.

So, what should we do to bring a positive discipline in our lives?

Here is a mini parenting guide for you which brings light to Positive Parenting Techniques.

  • Appreciate: We need a lot of positive behavior around us. Who does not like appreciation? Even if we are adults, we love to hear appreciating words or some kind of recognition. So is with the kids, our kids love appreciation when they achieve something. It is their first time to experience something so please try to avoid small mistakes. Don’t discourage or scold them for small mistakes rather we should appreciate them for their smallest of efforts. This will give them courage and motivate them to try new things.
  • Treat the Cause: It is so natural that we directly jump to the consequence or the result. But with kids, we should always try to find out the root cause. For example, if the kid is clinging to us and not leaving us at all, sometimes we even look for those peaceful 5 minutes which we eventually find in our washrooms. Have we ever thought of the cause for it? When I talked to myself about finding the cause I found that I have been busy at my work the whole day and could not give time to my little one. Find out the reason and try to solve the root problem. Instead of yelling you need to dig in deep and find the cause.
  • Kids Love rewards: Even a simple star cutout or a smiley face sticker counts for your young ones. Achievements need to be recognized. Hard work pays off. Good behavior also needs to be rewarded. I know it can add a little work to your already exhausting schedule but this is creating a positive environment around you. Your kid has tried out something new and wants to be rewarded. There’s no harm if rewards bring joy and positivity. Once rewarded your child will try to achieve more and next time you can raise the bar.
  • Remove Shame from making Mistakes: When we do something wrong, we gain something – Experience. So is with kids, don’t yell or laugh at their small mistakes. Especially the first mistakes. If we make fun of them for doing mistakes, they will never try new things ever. To make a mistake positive you can try laughing at your own mistake. If you spill the water (by mistake), smile or laugh at yourself saying “Oops I spilled the water”. Remember, our kids copy us. They do not have to feel shameful about their mistakes, they are learning with each of them.

Before jumping to another set of 4 techniques on Positive Discipline Please watch this video for your recap.

Positive Technique – Part 1
  • Use Time Out: Every parent has a connection with their kids. There are times when your kid is not happy with you or you are annoyed with them. That is the time for the child and you to go in the “thinking room”. But there has to be a time out. If you both are in your thinking space, remember to talk to your child. It can be 1 hour or even more but there has to be a time out and ensure you talk to your child about how he/she felt? Did it matter to them? They should know that thinking time is going to end and you will be talking to them about what happened. It is not endless.
  • Mean what you say: It is really important to mean what you say. So, if you say no, stick to it. No, don’t be harsh or rude to them but set your rules and stick to them. You have to be sensitive to their feelings along with making them understand your rules. As I always say kids follow you and they observe you a lot, you have to maintain your discipline first. If you are breaking your own rules, you cannot expect your child to follow them.
  • Use Positive language: Once you know what is negative language and its impact on your life you will start using positive language and follow the rule. Using positive language is quite simple and impactful. For instance, instead of saying don’t watch TV, you should say switch off the TV. Instead of saying don’t walk barefoot you can easily say wear your footwear and let’s walk. I remember one thing from the book “The Secret” and that stuck to me like the glue that is we attract positivity from the universe if we use positive language or positive behavior.
  • Take out “Me Time”: This is the most important thing I do and I recommend to all the parents is to take out time for yourself. Being positive always is not easy, being disciplined is not easy. It is something for which we have to come out of our comfort zone. Practicing positive discipline can be really hard, time-consuming, and energy-consuming. We have to train our brain to do something which is not easy. Obviously, yelling and getting things done is easier rather than waiting calmly for our kids to understand things. It has taken all your energy and efforts to be that parent that you want to be. So, you need to give yourself a break for some time. Take out time for yourself, just you. It can be, exercising, your skincare, go out or talk with adults where you do not have to train them or discipline them, sleep, or whatever. Find your me time after a lot of hard work of discipline.

You can watch this video for the complete recap of this post.

Positive Technique – Part 2

How Saying Good Jobs Could Make Anyone a Better Parent

How Saying Good Jobs Could Make Anyone a Better Parent

Do You appreciate your child?  

Do you praise your child?  

Of course you do that right? Every parent does that. You will ask me, is there anything wrong in that? 

No, there is nothing wrong in it but correct way of praising is important. 

Now, what is correct way of praising a child? 

During pandemic most of us are working from home. Imagine you are busy in your work and you are really into it. Suddenly your child comes to you asking how is this?   

He has drawn something on a sheet of paper on his own and really excited to show it to you. 

You are really busy in your work and the child keeps asking, tell me dad how is this or tell me mom how is this. Look here mom please.  

You have to look at your child and give him/her an answer. You turn your face for a second and say…

Every day we hear all sorts of questions from our kids like how is my drawing mama? Isn’t it beautiful? See How well I have drawn this picture? How did I do It? 

Yes, all sorts of 1000s of questions, which must be answered.

Please be ready I am going to b quiet straight forward here.  

You would say. Nice. Good job. 

Isn’t it? I guess I heard a yes or may be it’s my inner voice. 

See We all love our children , we praise them, we appreciate them just to see that beautiful smile on their faces. 

I know what you must be thinking, what’s the problem in appreciating our own children ?  

There is no problem in that, but I feel, good job is a very lazy Praise or I Would say it’s a bad praise. 

Come on, we are in 2021 guys, kids are smarter than us. They don’t just want to hear a good job from us, they already know about it. When we say good job we feel that we are boosting up their self-esteem. Well,  because we are not specifically telling them what is so good in that job that they have done. 

They will never get to know what is it that they have to do in order to hear a good job again from us in future. 

Confused? Let me simplify it for u. 

Next time your child wins the cricket match, please don’t say a good job. Just tell him, you did wonderful fielding.

If your child shows a certain drawing, then tell him, how well he has done the coloring in it. 

Be specific. And if you still want to be lazy, then make sure you at least say, “great efforts my dear” Because by saying great efforts you are conveying a message that they have taken a step towards trying and putting efforts. 

A lot of research has been done in child psychology. By reading some of the beautiful work I have understood, appreciation should be avoided in areas where a child has no control like God-gifted aspects – beauty, intelligence, and being artistic.

Rather, we should praise them for their generosity, efforts, compassion, respect for others, love, focus, discipline, quick decision-making, and not being lazy.

For example, next time tell them, you were so focused when you were playing this game or putting a lot of effort into keeping your things organized. Or maybe, you were so generous for sharing toys with your sister. 

There is one more way to praise your child.

Ask them how did they feel after doing certain work. Allow them to decide for themselves how do they feel about their accomplishments. Let them reward themselves. 

Please delete the words, “good job” from your vocabulary. And when next time you praise your child explaining what good they have done then you can actually feel proud of yourself, pat your back, and say to yourself … what? Good Job. 

Please try this technique next time. 

Don’t praise your child for the work they have done, rather, praise their efforts in doing that work. 

Let me know what difference you felt after changing your way of praising.

I hope this helps you as it is helping me. This is it on this topic from my side. Keep praising correctly. Stay Calm, stay positive and I will be back with a new blog. 

Cheers

Monica Aeran

Do you really even care?

Do you really even care?

Goonj Aeran

In the picture that’s my lovely daughter Goonj Aeran. She is going to be 6 years very soon.

She turns from a sophisticated princess to a mad monster right in a flick.

Right, when I conceived I started reading and searching every little thing about caring for a child.

I am still reading and learning a lot on how to handle things with her and its a continuous process.

As a mother, I am also 6 years old or 6 years young. There are days when she is really very stubborn and then there are days when she is awesomely sweet and innocent.

I am a mother and one thing I know now is I am raising a human being. Raising her has made me know myself. I know my strengths and I know my weaknesses.

Earlier, I used to think – I very much know what being a parent means.

As a parent, you want to and you do the best for your child.

Whenever I get a chance I make sure to cuddle with her, give her hugs and kisses. But, sometimes I completely use to “lost it” very often and screamed at her, yell at her as a frustrated mom would do.

I have done almost everything right from bribing a candy or chocolate and threatening her in a public place to be a disciplined child.

I pleaded I have ordered, I have tried to control her, I have begged her to sleep when I’m tired of all I wanted was her cooperation.

I really fear those days when none of the above would work. What if she stops respecting me? What if she stops listening to me? What if she might even stop coming back to me. I fear the days when nothing works for me. So how would I raise a capable, positive and successful person?

Then what I started reading, searching, and gathering information. And during this search, I came across small bits of information and theories that suggested there is a LOT I have been missing out on. There is a LOT more to parenting I know. These theories, articles, case studies present the idea that parenting is not to take control over your child’s life, creating a bond with them will be a lot more helpful.

Most of the schools that practice this thought process follow that, there is no need to punish a child ever. Once you give them respect, you will gain it back. The bond, the relationship you build today with your child can travel a long way to the difficult years of teenage and far beyond.

One thing I know now that Parenting is more about building character, (your own as well as your child’s) than about discipline. And on and on.

All of them would lead to one endpoint – that you have a better chance of raising a wonderful person with just one single change in your own character, attitude, and perception than with any other form of discipline rule.

Are you SERIOUS ?

Yes

So, I started looking at my relationship with my daughter. I started checking the patterns of me scolding her, getting mad at her. Slowly, I noticed one major problem that these patterns were like waves. My ups and downs were totally reflecting in her replies or talks to others.

I wanted to CHANGE. I picked few quick parenting tips, applied them. And they did work, almost but soon I almost got back to my traditional being.

Old habits won’t bring new results.

I wanted to make something for the long term, something which is sustainable. Something which could stay.

if you have reached till here that means you really CARE.

As I was thinking too much about it, I decided to break the pattern and started controlling myself. If I was trying a new technique or tip I was practicing it for at least 30 days as “it takes 30 days to make or (break) a habit”. Whatever happens, I have to follow it. Eventually, I should be able to reach where I want to be. Right?

It’s been a while now that I have changed my and my daughter’s behavior and the relationship between us. I still “lose it” but don’t get mad or a crazy parent like earlier.

If you’ve read this far, I’m guessing that at least some part of my story resonates with you.

Yes you are not alone.

These small tips really help. The only thing that matter is how much we want them to help us.

A small change in our own attitude and behavior can help a lot, really. I will be bringing some short videos and more blogs. This will be on various topics related to kids, their health, their concerns, our mental health, our concerns for kids, and much more.

I want to make a community through this blog where everyone can share their views and concerns about parenting.

if you are mother you are an Inspiration and so do the millions of mothers around you.

Great parents are made and not born. Do you all agree?

I am planning to write more on this blog and keep sharing as I want to bring together all the parents from different walks of life. We have one common goal as a parent – To slowly become a better person and raise a successful human being and bring out the best parent hidden within us.

Join Us in the Journey. Share your views about this blog by commenting or writing a mail @ monicaaeran@gmail.com

It’s a monumental journey we are on, and you will not regret being a part of this beautiful community!

Cheers

Monica Aeran

Fathers Role around the World

Fathers Role around the World

A Few Reflections on Fathers Day

Father’s Day is when we can reflect on the male role models in our lives and appreciate the lessons learned from their input. Gifts and cards are often given in recognition of the importance of that paternal role.

A Father’s Love

But these days many homes are single-parent families. Fathers may be seen only occasionally. Step-fathers, grandfathers, uncles, neighbors, teachers can all provide valuable guidance. They teach much about those predominately male traits and characteristics.

If a child’s father, their first significant male role model, falls short it can be tough for a child to process. They may become defensive or shut off emotionally, as a means of protecting themselves from further hurt and disappointment.

Or alternatively,

  • may feel compelled to continually strive to do better.
  • Constantly working harder and harder,
  • even react against the situation
  • becoming rebellious and defiant
  • giving the appearance of not caring, but constantly demanding attention nonetheless.

– As a single mother

it’s important to try to avoid sharing negative views and experiences of your ex. Stop coloring your child’s perspective of their father. It may have been a difficult breakup, leaving you feeling hurt, but those emotions are specific to your relationship with your ex-partner. Your joint children deserve to have the best of both of you and have each parent still in their lives as positive a way as possible.

Far better to encourage children to keep in touch with their father, resulting in a happier outcome for all in the longterm. A single mother may feel aggrieved that he’s in a position where he can bribe and buy the children’s affections with lavish gifts and treats, which they gleefully accept! Why wouldn’t they? But children are more insightful than perhaps we give them credit for. They usually know and appreciate the emotional and financial struggles that their mother has, the effort it takes simply to put food on the table each day.

Keep their relationship alive with their father and even if a more ‘wholesome’ male role model is in their lives, an understanding grandfather, uncle, mentor, accept that a child’s dad occupies a unique position for them.

As a separated father

 it’s important not to exacerbate a situation if it’s already fragile or acrimonious. The children are the innocents in this and if they behave badly or play up, accept that it may take time for them to settle and readjust. Try to ensure ongoing liaison with their mother, respect agreed on decisions, keep civil channels of communication open, and do your best to avoid reacting to points of contention.

Let’s reflect on the qualities that are important in a father:

– Physical strength 

provides reassurance to children, who value their father as a guardian, protector, someone who’s healthy and physically fit. They feel safe and secure when they know he’s strong enough to stand up for them and the family.

– Moral values

 matter. Children expect to see their father do ‘the right thing’, have principles, and be fair. Admiring and respecting their father for his integrity, honesty and guidance teach them about having standards and respect for the law and for others.

– Men are increasingly comfortable about expressing their feelings,

showing how much they love and care for their wife and children. Nowadays it’s more acceptable to talk about issues and problems, to discuss how to cope and manage stress. Being able to hug, show love and affection is important. The days of the strong, silent man are fading. Children need to see and learn from their significant male role model how to discuss, compromise and resolve problems satisfactorily.

– Family values

 are learned when they see their father enjoy spending time with them, treating it as a priority, important to him. Children are sensitive to non-verbal cues, sensing disinterest, rejection and mixed messages in a variety of ways. They also notice how he treats their mother and other family members, separated or not. Family values are learned from witnessing relationships at home.

– Respect for others 

is another important lesson. How a father treats other road users, staff, in restaurants and shops, how he addresses the people he meets. Is he deferential, submissive, arrogant, assertive, or pleasant? Good manners, consideration, and appropriate communication styles are important in building positive, successful relationships with others.

– Does father have a good work ethic? 

Being conscientious, fair, and diligent, enjoying his work choices, doing a good job, and finding satisfaction from his efforts all demonstrate a sense of responsibility. Does he respect and care for money, treat the property well, express gratitude and appreciation for what he has whilst having fun and treats? All traits a child will hopefully witness and learn from a father.

Father’s Day

Or Sundays can be a time to reflect on things we’d have done differently too. Fathers are the role models. Many people have memories of less than satisfactory experiences with their father, perhaps witnessing his relationship with work, money, success, areas where they feel he needed to have a better approach. They’ll aim to avoid repeating mistakes that were made with them. After all, we all want to be the best we can be when we come to parent our own children.

Getting Pregnant

Getting Pregnant

This is new for you. It’s never too early to start preparing for both birth and motherhood. Read More, learn more as much as you can now, it will help you feel more confident in making decisions. You should be selecting your hospital, healthy eating and exercising, what is best for you and your baby, and finding a childbirth education class.

Positive Habits

Getting Pregnant is a beautiful and excellent time to prioritize taking the best care of yourself. It is really important to imbibe positive habits to ensure the best health for you and your developing baby. Becoming a mother takes your attention towards positive habits like healthy eating, plenty of water and fluids intake, yoga classes or exercise regularly, and don’t forget to get plenty of rest—you’re now sustaining a new life and preparing for the big day of childbirth. It would be too early but you should also prepare yourself mentally for labor and new life of motherhood. Read or watch things that make you feel positive and energetic about your upcoming birth, for example, dance videos, childbirth education, birth documentaries such as The Business of Being Born, YouTube clips, and stories from family/friends. Most importantly, enjoy quality time with your family. This is your time. Get pampered by your partner and family. Now is the time to strengthen relationships with your partner, children, and other close relationships in your life.

Childbirth Education

For the first time parents, Childbirth education classes (online or offline) are a great idea. A helpful refresher even for those who have already experienced childbirth and parenting. By attending these classes you inculcate skills to facilitate a healthy, happy pregnancy and birth and a positive and bond of love and care amongst partners. Most hospitals offer classes for expectant parents, but they often cover only information about hospital procedures and what to expect. You may want to explore additional options to ensure you get the full range of information you need to make informed decisions throughout pregnancy and birth.

A good class should give you an overview of your options and be realistic about the kind of experience you may have. It should review the stages of labor and teach you pain management skills and breathing techniques. And it should include every possible scenario, “not just what the hospital is offering.” Most of all, the class should mirror your own philosophies and desires.

Your midwife can also give recommendations for breastfeeding and parenting classes in your area to help get you off to a strong start as a new mom.

Writing Your Birth Plan

There will be a lot of your loved ones to give you advice, suggestions, and recommendations about the new welcome. But a birth plan may be a written statement of your desires and what’s important to you once you are pregnant and ready to learn new things. A birth plan describes the experience you hope to possess, and therefore the ways you would like support or help from those that are caring for you. It can include an outline of your ideal labor and birth, also as things such as:

  • It can be totally your choice of labor room companions, including the participation of family and siblings
  • Pain management preferences
  • Medical procedures
  • Care immediately about your birth
  • Newborn care and procedures
  • Infant feeding preference and process
  • Preferences just in case of a non-emergency cesarean birth
  • Religious, cultural, or other beliefs
  • Your choice of contraception for after the birth

A birth plan will assist you to study your choices, and it helps you share your goals for your labor and birth with those that are caring for you during labor. once you work on a birth plan together with your provider, you share thoughts and concepts, which can help develop trust.

Avoiding Cesarean Birth

A cesarean birth may be a surgery done to deliver your baby by an incision in your uterus through your abdomen. Cesarean birth carries tons of additional risks for the mother and baby, and for a woman’s future pregnancies. childbirth is far and away from the safest for many women and their babies.

You are much more likely to possess health problems after a cesarean than after childbirth. These include severe bleeding, infection, more pain, more difficulty establishing breastfeeding, a good range of complications from the surgery, and extended recovery time. Having a cesarean also can cause you to possess health problems later.

For these reasons, a cesarean should be done as long as it’s needed to guard your health or your baby’s health.

For all these reasons, a cesarean should be done only if it is needed to protect your health or your baby’s health. View tips for avoiding a cesarean birth here.

Waiting for Baby’s Arrival

One of the toughest realities to simply accept during pregnancy is that your baby is extremely unlikely to change state on your “due date.” actually, only about 5% of babies arrive on their mother’s estimated maturity, and it’s quite common for babies to arrive after the maturity. Not knowing exactly when your baby is going to be born can make planning for important things like work, social events, and out-of-town visitors difficult. But the inconvenience of not knowing is well worthwhile for the health of you and your baby.

While being finished with pregnancy could seem tempting during that previous couple of weeks, artificially starting labor for nonmedical reasons is linked to increased risks including premature, cesarean surgery and infection.

Easing the Transition to Motherhood

The first month’s reception after your baby is born are often a quiet, gentle time of going to know this new one that has come to measure in your home. except for most girls, it’s not all quiet or sweet. And for a few women, it’s a really hard time. Tips for alleviating the transition include:

  • Get someone (partner, parent, friend) to require care of you and your other children for a minimum of 2 weeks after the birth. you’ll got to have backup plans for care just in case your baby arrives earlier or later than expected.
  • Consider cooking meals ahead of time and freezing them for later use.
  • Familiarize yourself with breastfeeding resources in advance.
  • talk to your friends, family, or a service to take care of your pets.
  • Ask your doctor for advice on parenting and transitioning your other children to a household with a new baby.
  • Decide whether or not you will return to work and arrange for infant feeding needs and childcare. Sometimes returning to work can be the hardest time for both moms and partners. It helps to discuss with your partner in advance how to handle childcare and household roles and responsibilities.
  • Getting rest can be difficult. If at all possible, sleep when your baby sleeps.

10 Tips to Improve Concentration and Focus In Your Child

10 Tips to Improve Concentration and Focus In Your Child

Children in every family are very precious. Education is an integral part of their growing process. It is often proved that children with utmost focus and concentration succeed well at their academic front at the same time improving their intellects at the good extent too.

At this outset, we bring you 10 valuable tips to enhance your child’s concentration and focus.

1. Diet:

When we mention a child’s growth, whether it’s physical or mental it’s directly connected with their diet. Here, it’s imperative to understand that nutrition is the primary key in improving the child’s concentration levels. Children eat better can focus well on their daily activities. Your child’s Cognitive Functions are ruled through micronutrients like copper, zinc, iron, selenium, and Vitamins A, C, D, and E. Ensure that your child’s diet is rich with certain nutrients those can impart good concentration and focus. Children with great levels of concentration and focus will excel well in every activity that included studies too.

2. Routine:

The Growing process of the youngsters is extremely sensitive to be given utmost priority. It’s certainly parents’ responsibility to nurture and form their growing not only healthy and fit, but also of excellent during a way, they’re going to be exposed to certain good patterns. Setting a routine with correct discipline is the greatest help. Parents should ensure setting the simplest routine into their daily activities, which may help them well to focus on the right manner. A best-set routine can help tons for the child’s overall development yet being the simplest source to reinforce their performance besides too. a number of such routines are like setting particular timings for doing homework, playing, eating, sleeping, and a few more. this type of well-set routine will make them always well prepared during facing the targets with determined focus.

3. Non-Academic Approach:

Academic and non-academic approaches should be made as a neighborhood of daily routine for kids.

Add some puzzles, impromptu questions which can be related to academic or non academic, quizzes, and a few more for non-academic approach.

These activities will teach well to the kid more about focus automatically. Importantly, these activities will improve exceptional problem-solving skills to the kid. Academic tasks often make the kid monotonous and exhaustive. They don’t enjoy them at a stretch. Once you add exposure to the motioned non-academic practices, they’re going to help the kid improve well on concentration, which down the road may result during a great help at the tutorial front.

4. Small Tasks:

Big tasks aren’t an excellent interest for your kids. They have a tendency to be bored while exposed to big tasks. This type of situation will affect drastically on the child’s focus levels. it’s always knowing to break any of the large tasks into multiple small tasks with a deadline. This may motivate them to unravel those tasks with determined focus and concentration. This is often the simplest thanks to improving your child’s concentration and focus too.

5. Mitigate Distractions:

It’s quite common for children to get distracted very quickly and easily. If you would like your child to enhance focus and concentration then it’s imperative to scale back or eradicate their distractions with the simplest possible ways.

The atmosphere

is another important cause here to distract children. Avoid loud sounds, TV, music and such from the atmosphere while your child is that specialize in something. Always observe what all causing distraction is and eliminate them the maximum amount as possible from the atmosphere.

6. Rest:


In between sleep time

Your child must have ample rest a day. Make it sure that your child has ample night sleep and add some additional rest or quick naps within the day time too. This might cause convenient activity for children aside from the availing ample rest, which may help them to focus and concentrate well on their work. This way kids will feel fresher to start up next.

7. Time Gaps:

It’s imperative to permit a while gap between tasks for the kid. For instance , doing homework continuously can make them lose their focus and concentration. allow them to complete their homework volume in bits and pieces ensuring time gap between one after one. You can add a snack time or small puzzle time to fill these gaps. This type of working ensure focus yet improving it within the right way too.

8. Appreciation:

I know you want to appreciate your child in every activity. Children take this type of praising the greatest motivation. A well-motivated child often tends to focus and consider the tasks given to realize the praising again. You ought to continue this well in your child with appropriate praising as inappropriate appreciation can lead into the incorrect direction too. Praising is to improve the child’s focus and concentration, but try to control and maintain a balanced way without fail. Know when to praise, how to praise, and how much to praise.

9. Activity Changes:


Inform Beforehand the changes

This is quite common to various activities within the child’s daily routine. But caution is extremely essential here. Children are just growing and that they find it difficult to simply accept changes. Sometimes, these changes can affect drastically the child’s focus and concentration. it’s imperative to feature activity changes by duly informing beforehand. you ought to make them well prepared for the change during away their focus and concentration won’t be affected.

10. Stories:


Reading Time

Storytelling or reading out stories to the kids showing an excellent positive impact since ages. Observe the use of this reading out stories during away child’s focus and concentration are often improved. Listening and comprehension skills will improve to an honest extent while reading out stories. This is often mainly thanks to the type of focus and concentration paid by the kid to the activity. So, reading out stories may be a proven practice to enhance your child’s concentration and focus.

5 Best Parenting Tips

5 Best Parenting Tips

When you’re dealing with young children, there is one thing that tested almost every day – your patience. To save yourself from losing it as well as your energy, try to look at each difficult situation with fresh eyes. Learn when to walk away and always choose your battles with your kids.

Follow these 5 Best Parenting Tips – They might just help save the day!

Mind your response

Keep in mind that you should only control what you can – and that is how you respond to any situation. When your little one does something not ideal, don’t let emotions get in the way. This will only result in overly-harsh punishments that will be hard on you both.
It’s not about how much your punishment inconveniences your child, it’s about consistency. Don’t worry about being predictable, consistent punishments work even if your child doesn’t act as it affects him. Focus on your response, not theirs.

Know when to walk away

When your little one breaks a rule, give the punishment and simply walk away. Don’t let an argument start because that’s when the power struggle that takes all your energy and patience away begins.
The less you react, the more it will show your child that you no longer tolerate arguing and backtalk. When you walk away from a power struggle, you take away their power.

Cooldown

When you’re starting to feel angry and frustrated, take a deep breath and walk it off. Take some time to let the frustration die down and allow your child to do the same. When both of your heads are cool, this allows for a calmer conversation that’s more effective and productive.

Tackle one issue at a time

You’re mad about chores, school, and your child’s general behaviour. But if you’re going to scold them, don’t mention everything all at once. This will only overwhelm the both of you and won’t lead to positive behavioral changes in your child.
Instead, tackle one issue at a time and try to discuss it as calmly as possible. Don’t forget to listen to what your child has to say!

Be a role model

Did you know that kids watch what we do more than they listen to what we say? Exhibit good behavior that you want to see in your kids, especially when it comes to values.

Parenting is hard but oh-so-worth-it. Practice these best parenting tips that just might help save your day!

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Infertility: Causes and Treatment

Infertility: Causes and Treatment

Infertility


There are at least 2 million cases of female infertility documented in the United States of America each and every year. For most of these women, the cause of their infertility is never conclusively diagnosed, and modern medicine is yet to provide comprehensive female infertility treatment. Various known and unknown factors contribute to female infertility. If you have been diagnosed with infertility, you are probably desperate to understand more about female infertility and find out what alternative cures and female infertility treatments are available.


What is Female Infertility?


A woman is considered to be medically infertile if she has been having sex, without any form of contraceptive, for 12 months and has been unable to become pregnant. Fertility is described in a medical sense as being either:

First Degree Infertility – women that have never had children

Second Degree Infertility – women that have had children, but are unable to conceive a second time
It is vitally important to make the distinction between infertility and sterility. Sterility is the term used to describe women that are completely unable to conceive their own children. Female infertility describes the difficulty that women experience in trying to conceive. Being infertile does not mean that you will never be able to have children. Exploring various female infertility treatment options will improve your chance of conception, and carrying a full term, healthy baby.


What causes female infertility?


There are several known causes of female infertility, some of these include:

  • Ovulation disorders
  • Damage to the reproductive organs
  • Hormonal imbalances
  • Chronic Miscarriage
  • Nutritional deficiencies
  • Psychological and emotional factors

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Baby Sleep – Frequent Asked Question

Baby Sleep – Frequent Asked Question

How can I put my infant to sleep? What kinds of sleeping aids are helpful to make my baby sleep? Are you also looking for the answers to these questions? Let’s look at some facts first.

Do you able to judge what are the signs your baby show when he/she is tired or want to sleep? Lets go through.

Seeing your baby cry is probably the foremost heartbreaking moment of all. You don’t want him to cry. you would like him happy. And in fact, you would like him healthy. except for all that to happen, he must sleep properly.

It would be nice if your child could learn how to sleep without any crying or frustration whatsoever. Every parent would sign up for that. Unfortunately, the truth is that all children, regardless of the method you use to help them sleep, inevitably do shed some tears in the process. Let’s see how can you make your baby sleep safely.

What’s really interesting about falling asleep is that although each folks is born with the inherent ability to try to to so, it’s considered a learned behavior. And yet you can’t teach anyone else the way to roll in the hay – you can’t simply tell your child to shut his eyes and sleep. Instead, each folks has got to learn for ourselves what to try to to to settle into sleep. Find it out today.

Your child, along side many others, hasn’t learned this essential skill yet, which is why he needs you to require a step back, so he has the chance to realize that on his own.
How will he do it? He might kick his legs around a touch , he might gently rock his head from side to side, or he might grab his lovey. or even he’ll suck on his thumb. If he’s a touch older, maybe he’ll play together with his hair.
The truth is, each folks has various things we do to appease ourselves into sleep, and your child will surely find how that’s perfect for him. But he won’t discover those things nearly as easily with you standing right next to him or picking him up – he won’t have the motivation to try to to so.
Simply put, if you “help” him, he will cry even harder because the touching seems like a tease that serves to strengthen the crying. Try various options to help him reach to a sound sleep.

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Transition From A Crib To A Bed

Transition From A Crib To A Bed

I want out! (Shout Out)

I think that’s the message your toddler will send – a method or another – when he’s able to wave goodbye to the crib and say hello to a big-kid bed. Your child might actually verbalize discomfort, moreover simply want to climb out of the crib.

So What’s needs to be done?

First, resist the temptation to maneuver him too early. Most experts recommend doing so around age 3. Unless your child is climbing out of his crib or needs more room than a crib can provide – his body is growing at an astounding rate – it’s better to keep him in the crib, which allows him to feel safe.

This way, your child can feel comfortable taking giant developmental leaps during the day but still regress to the safety of his old crib in the dark.

Transition From A Crib To A Bed

Moreover, until age 3, toddlers are very impulsive, and your child’s difficulty in understanding and having the ability to follow directions or rules (like staying in bed all night) will make sleeping in a bed a real challenge. If you transition to a bed before age 3, you’ll plan on awakening to a touch visitor next to your bed just about nightly.

When the time comes, however, you would like to assist your child transition smoothly to sleeping during a bed.

For that, you need to follow certain steps. These are:

1. Create a secure environment:

Safety proof your child’s room and all adjacent areas he might visit during the night. Secure or maybe closed windows, tops of stairs, and you know it better. Even better, you’ll install a security gate at your child’s door. You can even install a little night-light in his room to assist him to orient himself and avoid hurting himself.

2. Pick the new mattress for the baby:

Go to the nearby mattress store – and let your child help you choose the mattress or bed. With keeping safety in mind, all you would like maybe a twin-size mattress and bedspring and a few safety rails for the side. This new bed and mattress will got to sit low on the ground a few times until your child gets to it. Get some fun new sheets, some special pillowcases and you’re set to go.

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3. Transfer the crib (together):

Once the new bed comes home, ask your child to help you to take down the crib. This way, your child will feel a part of the transition process and can even be ready to say good-bye to the crib.

4. Set up the new bed and the mattress:

Put the bed in one of the corners of your kid’s room so that the head and at least one side of the bed are protected with the wall. Add a security rail can be fitted to the exposed side of the bed. Your child will feel safe this way even as he was safe in his crib.

5. Explain the bedtime rules:

Discuss the bedtime rules with your child. Tell your child that sleep is really important and we should sleep till the sunlight enters your room.

6. Do your bedtime routine:

Since your child is new to his bed, you should take an extra 10 minutes to spend first few nights and read some stories to make him comfortable in his new bed and environment. Slowly and gradually you child will be comfortable and feel safe in this new environment. 

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